“The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.”
Oscar Wilde · The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1890
This line captures the delightful contradiction at the heart of human willpower: the speaker freely admits that temptation is the one thing they cannot refuse. By framing surrender as a kind of proud boast rather than a confession of weakness, the line turns moral failure into a witty performance. It suggests that resisting minor obstacles is easy precisely because they do not truly tempt us, while genuine temptation, by its very nature, tends to win.
The line comes from a comedy of manners centered on aristocratic London society, where secrets, scandals, and sharp conversation drive the plot. The play belongs to a tradition of drawing-room wit in which characters express their worst impulses with elegant nonchalance. Wilde used the theatrical form to expose the gap between the respectable surfaces Victorian society presented and the desires simmering underneath. The line gets its power from that gap: it sounds like self-awareness but functions as self-justification.
Oscar Wilde was an Irish writer who became one of the most celebrated figures in late-Victorian literary culture. He excelled in multiple forms, producing plays, a novel, poetry, and criticism, all marked by a distinctive style that prized paradox, beauty, and the subversive reframing of conventional morality. His personal life eventually brought him into conflict with the law, and he spent his final years in relative obscurity, but his reputation has grown steadily since his death in 1900 and his work remains widely read today.
“The only way to get rid of a temptation is to yield to it.”
Oscar Wilde · The Picture of Dorian Gray, 1890
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