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The only way to behave to a woman is to make love to her, if she is pretty, and to someone else, if she is plain.
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About this quote

Meaning

The line is a piece of deliberate social mischief. On the surface it reads as a guide to courtship, but what it is really doing is lampooning the shallow, appearance-driven values of polite Victorian society. By framing romantic attention as something triggered entirely by physical attractiveness, Wilde exposes and exaggerates the vanity and superficiality lurking beneath the era's formal manners and elaborate social codes.

Context

The Importance of Being Earnest, first performed in 1895, is widely considered Wilde's comic masterpiece. The play is a sustained satire of upper-class English society, delivered through absurd situations and brilliantly polished dialogue. Lines like this one are spoken in a tone of breezy confidence, which is part of the joke: the character offers a deeply cynical observation as though it were perfectly reasonable social wisdom. The play as a whole uses that technique to make the audience laugh at the very world it belongs to.

About the author

Oscar Wilde was an Irish playwright, poet, and essayist who achieved enormous fame in Victorian England. His stage comedies combined sparkling wordplay with sharp social observation, and The Importance of Being Earnest remains one of the most performed plays in the English language. Wilde was also a gifted prose writer and a serious critic of art and culture. His life ended under difficult circumstances following his imprisonment in the mid-1890s, but his literary legacy has only grown stronger over time.

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