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Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night.
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About this quote

Meaning

This line describes grief with unusual spatial precision. The absence of a beloved person is rendered not as a vague sadness but as a physical gap in the landscape of daily life, something the speaker has to navigate around consciously during waking hours and falls into helplessly in the dark. The image honors the way loss is not just emotional but environmental: the world actually looks and feels different when someone central to it is gone.

Context

The line comes from Millay's published correspondence, collected in a volume of her letters released in 1952. Letters are an intimate form, closer to raw feeling than a polished poem, and that rawness shows here. Millay was writing about personal loss, the specific kind that reorganizes one's sense of space and time. The image of a hole in the world is striking because it makes the invisible visible, giving shape to an experience that is usually described in purely emotional terms.

About the author

Edna St. Vincent Millay was an American poet born in Maine in 1892. She became one of the most celebrated poets of her generation, known for her sonnets and lyric poems as well as for the bold, unconventional life she lived. She was the first woman to win the Pulitzer Prize for Poetry, receiving the award in 1923. Her work is marked by emotional directness, formal skill, and a willingness to treat personal experience, love, loss, and longing, as worthy of serious literary attention. She died in 1950.

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