Famous Quotes

25 Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes on Courage and Living Well

Her most-shared lines on courage, curiosity, and peace, each one traced to a book, speech, or column she actually wrote.

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Here are 25 real Eleanor Roosevelt quotes, drawn from her books, speeches, and My Day column so you can share them with confidence. The best known is "You must do the thing you think you cannot do," from her 1960 book You Learn by Living. Her Eleanor Roosevelt wisdom holds up well, and it still beats most of the fake lines floating around the internet.

The Most Famous Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes

1
You must do the thing you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt You Learn by Living, 1960

This is the line people quote most, and it works because she never promises the fear disappears. She just says to do the thing anyway.

2
The most important thing in any relationship is not what you get but what you give.

Eleanor Roosevelt This Is My Story, 1937

She learned this as a young woman who had spent years living inside a dreamworld, so the line carries real weight. Giving is the part you control.

3
It isn't enough to talk about peace. One must believe in it. And it isn't enough to believe in it. One must work at it.

Eleanor Roosevelt Voice of America broadcast, 1951

Belief alone gets you nowhere, and she knew it. I think this one still stings because most of us stop at the first two sentences.

4
We have to face the fact that either all of us are going to die together or we are going to learn to live together and if we are to live together we have to talk.

Eleanor Roosevelt The New York Times, 1960

She said this during the Cold War, when the stakes were nuclear. The plain logic is hard to argue with.

5
Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life.

Eleanor Roosevelt Preface to The Autobiography of Eleanor Roosevelt, 1961

This is the closing note of her autobiography, and it reads like advice she actually followed. Curiosity is the thread that runs through her whole life.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes on Love and Friendship

6
Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in The Beacon Book of Quotations by Women, 1992

Most advice about friendship points outward. She starts with the person in the mirror, which I think is the smarter place to begin.

7
It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know.

Eleanor Roosevelt My Day, 1 April 1939

She wrote this in her newspaper column, not in a book. She was watching people shut themselves away from pain and calling that a kind of living death.

8
You get more joy out of the giving to others, and should put a good deal of thought into the happiness you are able to give.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in Sheroes, 1998

This one is the practical cousin of her line about giving. It asks you to plan kindness the way you would plan a trip.

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Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes on Life and Curiosity

9
I think, at a child's birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift should be curiosity.

Eleanor Roosevelt In Defense of Curiosity, The Saturday Evening Post, 1935

Give a kid curiosity and the rest tends to follow. I think she was right, and parents who have tried to teach patience know how much it helps.

10
Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product. Paradoxically, the one sure way not to be happy is deliberately to map out a way of life in which one would please oneself completely and exclusively.

Eleanor Roosevelt You Learn by Living, 1960

Chasing happiness directly tends to leave you empty. She says it shows up as a side effect of caring about something outside yourself.

11
The purpose of life...is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.

Eleanor Roosevelt Foreword to You Learn by Living, 1960

The ellipsis is in the original, and it is where the sentence turns. She answers the question of purpose with one verb: live.

12
One thing life has taught me: if you are interested, you never have to look for new interests. They come to you.

Eleanor Roosevelt You Learn by Living, 1960, p. 14

I like how little effort she thinks this takes. Be curious, and the interests find you on their own.

13
When you cease to make a contribution, you begin to die.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in Eleanor: The Years Alone by Joseph P. Lash, 1972

It is a blunt line, and she meant it as a rule for living. The contribution does not have to be big, just real.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes on Work and Character

14
No writing has any real value which is not the expression of genuine thought and feeling.

Eleanor Roosevelt My Day, 20 December 1939

Writers hear this and wince, because it cuts out the cleverness. She wanted honesty first and polish second.

15
One of the blessings of age is to learn not to part on a note of sharpness, to treasure the moments spent with those we love, and to make them whenever possible good to remember, for time is short.

Eleanor Roosevelt My Day, 5 February 1943

Written in a daily column during the war, this is a reminder about the last words you say to people. It sounds simple, and it is hard to do.

16
I have never felt that anything really mattered but the satisfaction of knowing that you stood for the things in which you believed and had done the very best you could.

Eleanor Roosevelt My Day, 8 November 1944

Notice that she measures success by effort and conviction, not by outcomes. I think that is why the line still lands.

17
It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself.

Eleanor Roosevelt My Day, 15 June 1946

This is a leadership test in one sentence. Most managers I have worked with would benefit from reading it twice.

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18
Understanding is a two-way street.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in Modern Quotations for Ready Reference, 1947

Seven words, and the whole idea of empathy fits inside them. It is short enough to remember in an argument.

19
I think that somehow, we learn who we really are and then live with that decision.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in Peter's Quotations by Laurence J. Peter, 1972

I think she is right that identity gets chosen as much as discovered. The second half is the uncomfortable part.

Eleanor Roosevelt Quotes on Peace and Justice

20
Example is the best lesson there is.

Eleanor Roosevelt Tomorrow Is Now, 1963

Short, sharp, and true for parents, teachers, and bosses alike. People watch what you do long before they listen to what you say.

21
Human resources are the most valuable assets the world has.

Eleanor Roosevelt Tomorrow Is Now, 1963

She counted people, not oil or steel, as the real wealth of nations. That was a bold position in 1963 and it still reads as one.

22
We must know what we think and speak out, even at the risk of unpopularity.

Eleanor Roosevelt Tomorrow Is Now, 1963

She treated speaking up as a duty of democracy. Staying quiet to keep the peace is a choice too, and she would have pushed back on it.

23
When will our consciences grow so tender that we will act to prevent human misery rather than avenge it?

Eleanor Roosevelt Quoted in Hillary Rodham Clinton's essay on the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, 1998

Her work on the Universal Declaration gave this question teeth. Prevention is harder to celebrate than revenge, which is exactly why she pressed for it.

24
There never has been security. No man has ever known what he would meet around the next corner; if life were predictable it would cease to be life, and be without flavor.

Eleanor Roosevelt Tomorrow Is Now, 1963

Anyone chasing guarantees will find this a bit deflating. I find it oddly comforting, because it means the uncertainty is normal.

25
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.

Eleanor Roosevelt You Learn by Living, 1960, pp. 29-30

This is the longer version of her famous line about doing the thing you cannot do. She explains the mechanism that makes it work.

Quotes often misattributed to Eleanor Roosevelt

  • "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Ralph Keyes' The Quote Verifier says archivists could not find it in This Is My Story or any of her other writings.
  • "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams." It appears in books attributed to her, but no original source in her writings has been found.
  • "Women are like tea bags. You never know how strong they are until you put them in hot water." Nancy Reagan was quoted with a similar remark in 1981, and no original source has been found for the Roosevelt version.
  • "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people." It circulated as an anonymous saying, and Admiral Hyman Rickover quoted it without claiming to have written it.
  • "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift... that's why they call it the present." This is usually treated as anonymous, though several websites credit her.

About Eleanor Roosevelt

Eleanor Roosevelt (1884 to 1962) was an American political figure, diplomat, and activist. She is best known for redefining the role of first lady during her husband's four terms as president.

  • Longest-serving first lady of the United States, from 1933 to 1945.
  • Served as a United States delegate to the United Nations General Assembly from 1945 to 1952.
  • Helped design the text of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights and win international support for it.
  • President Harry S. Truman called her the "First Lady of the World."
  • Key works include This Is My Story (1937), You Learn by Living (1960), and Tomorrow Is Now (1963).

Sources

Save the ones that hit you hardest, and check the source before you post. If you want more reflective voices from the same era, try our Teddy Roosevelt quotes or our Satchel Paige quotes on aging.

Frequently asked questions

What is Eleanor Roosevelt's most famous quote?
The line people cite most is "You must do the thing you think you cannot do," from You Learn by Living (1960). It appears in her discussion of facing fear.
Did Eleanor Roosevelt really say "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"?
Probably not. Ralph Keyes' The Quote Verifier reports that archivists could not find it in This Is My Story or any of her other writings.
Did Eleanor Roosevelt write "Great minds discuss ideas"?
There is no evidence she wrote it. The line circulated as an anonymous saying before it was linked to her, and Admiral Hyman Rickover quoted it without claiming authorship.
Why was Eleanor Roosevelt called the First Lady of the World?
President Harry S. Truman gave her that title for her work on the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. She helped shape the document as a United States delegate to the UN.